Why Is Everyone So Easily Offended?

77104263It seems to be running rampant throughout our society. People are offended at the smallest things. These so called offences spawn acts of road rage, displaying public disagreements or setting up walls of isolation. All because someone did something that they don’t like. Their theme song could be “You did me wrong” song. These days’ people are so overly sensitive and tightly wound, that they are quick to take things personal and build walls between anyone that violates their small comfort zone.

In Proverbs 18:19 it says, “A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city”. Once individuals allow themselves to take the bait of offense they can become so emotionally closed that no one can penetrate the fortress they have erected. The picture that the scripture paints us is that of a walled city that closes its gates protecting all within from anything coming from the outside. The offended person closes himself or herself from anything or anyone that they think could bring inner hurt.

Those that are easily offended have some common characteristics in their lives. They live in a “rejection mentality” causing them to see everything that happens as a deliberate rejection focused on them.  They take things personal instead of realizing that it can be a general circumstance that just happens to include them. They are individuals that are easily triggered and tend to presume the “why” without seeking

The offended person closes himself or herself from anything or anyone that they think could bring inner hurt.  (tweet)

the facts of the bigger picture. You could say that they are selfish and self-centered individuals that are controlled by their personal feelings. They are limited from seeing the one that has offended them as maybe a person with their own unrevealed circumstances. The offended person can come across as “conflict focused”. They feel that everything is a battle not realizing the most significant battle goes on inside them. They are wounded and bruised emotionally Continue reading

Unforgiveness is the Cancer of the Soul


The effects of revival in our land have on different occasions in history touched even the White House.  President Lincoln, being concerned about America’s condition, its success and independence as well as a country be ripped apart.  He gave his Proclamation for a National Day of Fasting, Humiliation and Prayer.  On April 30,1863, President Abraham Lincoln said, “… It behooves us then, to humble ourselves before the offended Power, to confess our national sins, and to pray for clemency and forgiveness.”[i]   The results of the great revival that had been happening in America not only carried on, but lasted for many years.  It had begun in a passion for prayer and was sustained with faithfulness of prayer!  Mathew Henry once said “When God intends a great mercy for His people, He first sets them a praying.” We must find the place of prayer!  We must allow the Holy Spirit to convict us of anything that would stop His flow in us and through us. 

God wants us to pray from a heart of purity that we might see Him in His fullness and in dimensions of His great mercy.  Even in the midst of blessing and revival we can allow the enemy to get a foot hold in our lives. In Matt. 6:14-15 it says, “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. (NKJV)   Anytime we allow our soul to be infected with the spiritual cancer of bitterness and unforgiveness, it will hinder God’s moving in our lives and those around us.

  • Unforgiveness will stop your prayer life!
  • Bitterness that is bottled up inside you will defile you and others.
  • Lets deal with our bitterness and unforgiveness so that we can have a pure heart.

How can we expect to talk to our heavenly Father who has forgiven us when we ourselves are holding bitterness and unforgiveness in our own hearts towards others?  In the Gospel of Mark we read “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.”  ( Mark 11:25  NKJV)

 Search your heart for any area

of defilement in you.

[i]   Arthur S. DeMoss Foundation , The Rebirth Of America, 1986, p. 151